Here I am, ending the year and decade strong like I’m supposed to. I refused to stay defeated after the trauma I’ve gone through.
At some point in time, life could be rosy with all the glamour and full of blessings. However, in a twinkle of an eye –while unprepared, could turnaround and leave you heartbroken to the lowest point. Even at this low point, more problems and devastation multiply the pain.
The year 2018 was an unforgettable year for me because I was raped by the son of my employer. Needless to say that I was knocked down hard, I also lose my business and many people –most of which I considered to be my friends. I was humbled in depression. Still, I survived and continue living even without direction though. During the period, my only objective was to survive every passing day even without thoughts of the next chapter of my life.
I could say 2019 brought even worse situation just because I was not prepared for the cessation. I got frozen and remain brokenhearted. At this low point of my life, which I have never experienced, my mental health almost got damaged to the point that I practically lost my sanity completely. I almost forgot who I was. I became a different person even to myself, even physically. Although I tried to fit back into the world I used to know but I was not certain I’ll ever blend in again or even be accepted.
This feeling continued until I was awoken by the only truth left in my mind. But, I was reminded of who I was in the last quarter of 2019. I could not settle for been broken. Defeat is not a part of me because I am born to do great things. I had to head back to the gym to get in shape, did the Spartan race for the first time and listened to audiobooks. I surrounded myself with the right people which indirectly led to active networking for my new furniture business. I actively stood up the community and serve as the President-Elect of Rotary Club of Makati Mckinley. Then, I created an online organization –the “Beauty in Brokenness”.
My objective, for next year and decade, is to inspire women going through similar shock. Women who were victims of rape and are still surviving. I call us "rape survivors". My goal is to inspire people through a platform that no matter how tough or terrible life has screwed us, we can still wake up with new hope and energy to be the best version of ourselves. Also, to get the best of the opportunity that has been around you. The platform is built to move us forward towards our goal while helping us choose happiness over refusal and defeat.
Healing from the dreadfulness of rape is a process and indeed, a journey. Words of encouragement, life lessons from my own experiences and other survivors could aid a faster healing process and can help you overcome the trauma.
Join me as we welcome the New Year, a new decade and a promising life of happiness!